My teacher once asked this question:
"Look back into your past and tell me the worst thing to ever happen to you."
I looked around at everyone next to me and I saw what they were thinking.
Over half of them, I could tell had nothing to say.
Another fourth had legitimate things.
But it took them a while to think about it.
And then my teacher said:
"If you couldn't think of something fast, then you must have a pretty well-ajusted life."
And then I raised my hand and asked:
"So if I knew that the worst thing that has happened to me before you even asked the question, does that imply my life is terrible?"
And her reply was:
"No, Amanda. That just means you've had more life experiences and unfortunate events happen to you at such a young age. Being here, in this moment, says how strong you are to overcome them.
This teacher might be straight and to the point.
But without a doubt, she is the smartest person I have ever met.
She is the only person that has ever acknowledged how much pain I was going through without showing it.
And I will never be able to thank her enough for that.