1.your middle school best friend, the one
you share all your laughs with and can't imagine not
being friends with, will only be a familiar face that
you'll share a smile with across the room during high
school graduation.
2. popularity doesn't matter. at all. be nice to
everyone, don't be stuck up in who you talk to, stay down
to earth. high school isn't just about climbing to the
top and buidling contacts. one day you're going to look
back and wonder who your tru friends were and what motives
other had in gaining your friendship. take the time to get to
know those who you normally wouldn't, and you'll be
very surprised.
3. the loneliness you feel right now is not permanent. there
will be a moment, maybe months or years from now, where you
will feel this overwhelming warmness, and you will look
around at the people surrounding you and think, hey maybe all
that sadness and lonelness was worth getting to this point,
and you will smile and everything will be ok.
4. don't get sucked into the "i'm too cool to
study" phase, stop glorifying netflix, going to slep
late, and barely getting your work done. find your
motiviation and don't let anyone hold you back. there
will be kids at school who will love to brag "I
didn't study for this test" and "oh dude I
stayed up till 1am last night." i promise that
doesn't make them cool. in fact, most people who claim
they haven't cracked a book open, have actually studied
more than you think. hold your own, be productive, you
don't want to look back on a test, a quarter, a semester,
a year and think "i wish i had done more." give it
your all and you will reap the benefits.
5. don't lose your spontaenity- don't get sucked into
the same rigid routine. regularity is great but you can't
lose your spark. it will crush you, years down the line, when
you realize you've forgotten what it's like to do
something without overly planning it, without worrying about
homework, without a million other items on your to-do list
creping into the back of your mind
6. when you're having a bad night, just go to sleep.
seriously turn your phone off, close the computer, and get
into bed. i promise that is the only solution.
7.when someone invites you to plans, always say yes, even if
you're exhausted, curled up watching a movie in pajamas.
even if you feel like you want some alone time, or if you
don't feel 100 percent comfortable in the social
situation (not in a dangerous way but a meeting new people
way)- say yes. you won't regre the experiences.
8. make yourself painfully aware of the compartmentalized
characterisics and cookie-cutter personas you put on and that
others put on. be conscious of the characters the media has
ingrained in our society, and remind yourself that being the
"cool girl" doesn't mean drinking beer and
earing burgers and letting guys step all over you so you can
seem chill. reading and writing doesn't make you
"nerdy" just like playing sports doesn't make
you cool. these are associations we have been taught by movie
scripts and novels. you don't have to be one thing or the
other- you can wake up early one morning, make yourself a
smoothie, and be that "yoga" girl. then the next
day you can stay out all night and live recklessly. you
don't have to feel like you need to fit into a
persona.
9. not everyone will like you, and that's okay. stop
trying to please everyone- it's impossible. radiate
confidence- even if it's fake confidence, eventually it
will become real. once you can do this, you will be
untouchable.
10. it's not weird to go places alone- you don't
always need to find a friend to enjoy yourself. go for a
walk, a bike ride, read at a coffee shop, take yourself out
to lunch, drive somewhere interesting. don't spend your
whole day in a big ole box- you are alive, you are full of
life and energy, and so much potential. use it, move around,
feel restless and don't settle for staying idle.
-advice for high
schoolers