whaddupkatie · 1 decade ago
Ive been through something similar. My dad drinks a lot, is abusive, mentally and Physically, cheated on my mom, and does drugs. Sometimes the best thing to do is leave. Let him know that if he doesn't stop what he's doing, it could stay like that permanently, not just for a time. Me and my mom traveled 800 miles and I haven't seen my dad for a year and 4 months. We left permanently. When your mom goes, go with her. Tell him if he doesn't shape up, if he doesn't cut down for the same of your family, that if everything doesn't slow down, and it's more important than your family, that the best decision is to leave. That's my opinion. c: -Katie. <3
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sophee · 1 decade ago
just take away drinks at first and try to talk to ur dad when he is not drinking and make him feel guilty about what he is doing to his family and try to give him less cigarets day by day and less drinks and keep on talking to him to him and if it keeps on going well u keep on telling him good job and try not to leave him alone to much because i think he is lonely that's why he started drinking and smoking take turns and ur brother could stay with him one time u the next then ur mom and so on and so forth i hope that helped and try to get him to a therapist i hope this helped.
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rupertgrintluvr · 1 decade ago
my dad DID that... the answer is renab.
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liveitup44 · 1 decade ago
Bring him to a therapist, hope it helps ♥
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XODanieXO · 1 decade ago
you cant tell him that its hurting him. guilt is the only thing that gets to addicts like this. my mom's just like that
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Wow_1 · 1 decade ago
This idea will take a while but give it a try;
Hide his cigarette packets and ration them to 1 a day, then 1 a week and so on.
2) Replace them with mints.
3) For every packet less he smokes, give him a reasonable amount of money.


Hope I helped. :D
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thisbeautyisabeast · 1 decade ago
(not trying to sound rude) leave pitty notes by his what he drinks and smokes..and remind him every drink drink he has or every time he smokes it's one step closer to loosing his amazing family. hope it'll help(:
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KKFrogface · 1 decade ago
Hey sweet girl. I know this has to be super hard for you. My suggestions?
1. Put up posters of things that drinking and smoking do to you EVERYWHERE in your house.
2. Suggest counselling.
3. Try and talk to yourdad about it. Find a good time and bring along your mum and brother.
Good luck and I'm very sorry:(
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10210 · 1 decade ago
suggest a councler!
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poodlelomein35 · 1 decade ago
Oh sweetie, im so sorry!!! I cant say ive gone through the same things, but i have had to deal with similar situations. Do whatever you feel comfortable with, but my advice is to print out some things off the internet about the health dangers of smoking etc. pick a good time and sit down with your dad and talk it over. ask him not to say a word until you are through and make sure he is listening sincerely. bring up the fact that you love him and only want the best for him. you want him to be there when you graduate college and have a baby. tell him how much it means to you to have him there when you have your first kid, and to imagine him never meeting his grandson/granddaughter, things like that. Mention how you want him to be around for as long as possible for all the milestones in your life, such as your wedding, things like that. Tell him that you dont want your mom to leave and you love him and just want whats best for his health. Im so sorry you are going through this girlie. I promise to keep you in my prayers <3 Stay strong!! Hope this helps!!
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shelbyAcolin · 1 decade ago
From experience, i can tell you that it's not easy, and I had to be completely and irrevocably harsh.
I told this person that he must hate me and that he was the most selfish person in the world for wanting to split our family up for something that was going to kill him anyway. I said you're either going to take her away from us or you, and that's going to cause all kinds of damage. And I told him that 82% of young girls who grow up without their fathers are more likely to seek sexual attention from men around their fathers age and pick up the mans habbits.I played the guilt card and asked if that's how he wantted me to end up, and if he actually hated me that much because all I've ever done is loved him. A week later he was on a patch and put himself in therapy for the problems that caused him to drink.
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InYourWildestDreams · 1 decade ago
I've never been in a situation like that, but one day while he's sober make a deal with him. He goes to an alcoholics anonymous class and cuts down the smoking and in return you'll....do something. I don't know, but hopefully you will have an idea. sorry about your father and i hope i helped some.
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WittyFace · 1 decade ago
I have no expierience, except for trying to get my mum to stop smoking but anyway reseach the bad side effects of drinking and smoking, find a time when he's sober and lash out on him about his healt?
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prettylyinggilmore · 1 decade ago
Bring to your dad's attention that his habits arent helping him in many ways first he is killing himself also he is loosing everyone that he loves and if that doesnt work then try to make a deal that if you can get however many favs you think will work and say if i can get _____ favs you have to cut back on smoking & drinking. I hope things work out for you. I'm here if you wanna talk good luck!
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confessionsfromacutter24 · 1 decade ago
You can always ask your dad to talk and then tell him about how it rreally bothers you and your familyand that its starting to affectt a big ammount. You can also tell him that if he doesnt stop it cud have some bad effects in his life. Or you could tell him that what if he was at the bar llate and maybe ur mom wasnt home and when your dad comes home he could go physco and do crazy things and you would beleft alone with no help.That might do a big effect. I hope that helps!
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Fake_a_smile · 1 decade ago
I'm sorry :( I don't know what to do though :/
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