skinnyminikitty
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1 decade ago
Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.
Thats all its about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesnt even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, I will wait 24 hours before I do anything. Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesnt mean that you have to it is up to you.
3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone whats going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:
Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But dont give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet, us witty girls can talk to you bu that only goes so far.
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moo
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1 decade ago
http://www.wittyprofiles.com/q/5515587 reply
bastardofbodom666
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1 decade ago
THIS IS MY PIECE!!!! TAKE THIS DOWN NOW!!!
http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/poems/23102-bloodlust/ reply
bastardofbodom666
·
1 decade ago
http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/sort/poems-by/bastardofbodom666/most-reads/page3/
THIS IS MY PIECE!!! TAKE THIS DOWN NOW! reply
tell_me_what
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1 decade ago
DELETE THIS PLEASE reply
siphondarkness
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1 decade ago
Hello there this is Levi..The writer of this poem....And I would like to request that you either give me credit or take this down. Here is the original poem and you will notice that the dates are different and that mine was posted first....that's because I wrote it that day...http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/poems/23584-the-vipers-kiss/ reply
Where_Rainbows_End
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1 decade ago
Hello! :D
Well, you could write on love: Heartbreaks, or falling in love?
On nature?
Best friends! :D My favorite...
Or how you met someone really special to you...
Studies? :P Worst topic ever.
Describe your heaven...
How you feel about life.
Music? :P :P :P reply
mehmeh
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1 decade ago
can you write about staying strong & dealing with depression? i really need that right now. reply
audination
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1 decade ago
this is pretty , i suggest if ur not 18, do not read it. xP reply
13mpie
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1 decade ago
Please do not kill yourself. I had a family member that took his own life. Please don't do it. You may not think you are loved at the moment, but trust me, you are. Too many people would be devestated without you. Stay strong! (: reply
Ctron
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1 decade ago
I know that I love you. We're all related somehow. <3 reply
Lifeelover7
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1 decade ago
Killing Yourself will not make anything better. If it seems like no one loves you. God will ALWAYS love you and enjoy your presence :)
<3 Keep your head up Sweetie <3 reply
strictlysexy
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1 decade ago
oh, sweetie, don't kill yourself. i guarantee, someone will be very sad to see you go. i know that i will. if you need to talk, i'm right here. reply
taadaaitslivv
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1 decade ago
dont kill yourself, there is somebody out there who loves you. reply
cookie_monster_love
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1 decade ago
Don't take your own life. I can guarantee, you're loved. Stay strong. reply
cgbubbles5
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1 decade ago
please dont leave...you are loved by someone, they could just be afraid to telll you<3 reply
cxsoccerchick
·
1 decade ago
you were born good enough and you just dont know your full potential. keep your head up and NEVER FORGET, your beautiful and here for a reason. chase that reason <3 godblesss<3 reply
dinosaurskickas
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1 decade ago
My sister and I are the only people in my family (cousins, aunts uncles, grandparents, parents, ect.) that don't believe in god. We used to get about it too. It was so dumb. but don't worry about it. nobody can change your own opinion. thats what makes you different, and unique. dont let them bring you down. don't let them win. youre perfect its better to have your own opninion then to be bossed around for the rest of your life. reply
skinnyminikitty · 1 decade ago
Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.
Thats all its about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesnt even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, I will wait 24 hours before I do anything. Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesnt mean that you have to it is up to you.
3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone whats going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:
Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But dont give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet, us witty girls can talk to you bu that only goes so far.
reply
moo · 1 decade ago
http://www.wittyprofiles.com/q/5515587
reply
bastardofbodom666 · 1 decade ago
THIS IS MY PIECE!!!! TAKE THIS DOWN NOW!!!
http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/poems/23102-bloodlust/
reply
bastardofbodom666 · 1 decade ago
http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/sort/poems-by/bastardofbodom666/most-reads/page3/
THIS IS MY PIECE!!! TAKE THIS DOWN NOW!
reply
tell_me_what · 1 decade ago
DELETE THIS PLEASE
reply
siphondarkness · 1 decade ago
Hello there this is Levi..The writer of this poem....And I would like to request that you either give me credit or take this down. Here is the original poem and you will notice that the dates are different and that mine was posted first....that's because I wrote it that day...http://deepundergroundpoetry.com/poems/23584-the-vipers-kiss/
reply
Where_Rainbows_End · 1 decade ago
Hello! :D
Well, you could write on love: Heartbreaks, or falling in love?
On nature?
Best friends! :D My favorite...
Or how you met someone really special to you...
Studies? :P Worst topic ever.
Describe your heaven...
How you feel about life.
Music? :P :P :P
reply
mehmeh · 1 decade ago
thank you :)
reply
nesparz · 1 decade ago
AGREED
reply
mehmeh · 1 decade ago
can you write about staying strong & dealing with depression? i really need that right now.
reply
audination · 1 decade ago
this is pretty , i suggest if ur not 18, do not read it. xP
reply
13mpie · 1 decade ago
Please do not kill yourself. I had a family member that took his own life. Please don't do it. You may not think you are loved at the moment, but trust me, you are. Too many people would be devestated without you. Stay strong! (:
reply
Ctron · 1 decade ago
I know that I love you. We're all related somehow. <3
reply
Lifeelover7 · 1 decade ago
Killing Yourself will not make anything better. If it seems like no one loves you. God will ALWAYS love you and enjoy your presence :)
<3 Keep your head up Sweetie <3
reply
strictlysexy · 1 decade ago
oh, sweetie, don't kill yourself. i guarantee, someone will be very sad to see you go. i know that i will. if you need to talk, i'm right here.
reply
taadaaitslivv · 1 decade ago
dont kill yourself, there is somebody out there who loves you.
reply
cookie_monster_love · 1 decade ago
Don't take your own life. I can guarantee, you're loved. Stay strong.
reply
cgbubbles5 · 1 decade ago
please dont leave...you are loved by someone, they could just be afraid to telll you<3
reply
cxsoccerchick · 1 decade ago
you were born good enough and you just dont know your full potential. keep your head up and NEVER FORGET, your beautiful and here for a reason. chase that reason <3 godblesss<3
reply
dinosaurskickas · 1 decade ago
My sister and I are the only people in my family (cousins, aunts uncles, grandparents, parents, ect.) that don't believe in god. We used to get about it too. It was so dumb. but don't worry about it. nobody can change your own opinion. thats what makes you different, and unique. dont let them bring you down. don't let them win. youre perfect its better to have your own opninion then to be bossed around for the rest of your life.
reply