When working on self-reflection and renewing yourself to be a better person, make sure you are not analyzing and mirroring other people’s social behaviors, but taking a look at yourself.
If you observe others, you are influenced by them. You need to constantly remind yourself who YOU are. The beauty of a sociable person is the unique natural truth in their personality. No matter what that truth may be. People can see if someone is truthful or not easily. People want to be friends with someone who isn’t fake or wanna-beish because they know that they can always trust them.
A person true to their personality is confident (not necessarily loud, but confident). They are stable and don’t run after anyone but themselves. They know exactly what they want and what their own opinions and judgments mean. They aren’t phased or brainwashed by anyone else because they have their own reasoning. These people aren’t scared to be themselves because when they are confident, they are respected. When they are respected, they have friends.
To be seen as someone who is stable and confident, they must think before they speak. This is among many other things that help them gain confidence, however chewing their words is crucial. They’re always one step ahead of everyone else. They gather information before making up their own opinion, because when they realize what the want to say it’s sensible and is valid. They listen, process, and are seen by society as intelligent, thoughtful leaders. These people know what is the best way to do something for themselves because they take the time to think about it. “Before you speak, think - Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?” - Sri Sathya Sai Baba
When you are in any social situation, remember to think outside yourself. Don’t lock yourself up in your own little head. To do that, the biggest factor is sleep. Getting enough sleep is crucial for your presence, awareness and your general alertness. That will aid you with social issues naturally without even thinking about it.
Lastly, after you find a couple people you like, be proactive. Make plans to go see a movie or hang out at the mall. Find fun activities you can do so people can get to know you better outside of school. Remember to be natural and relaxed. Have fun.
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