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  1. destabilise destabilise
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    December 7, 2016 8:38pm EST
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  2. destabilise destabilise
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    November 5, 2014 4:48pm EST
    Why is the term “friend zone” so popular when the term “unrequited love” already exists and is more accurate?
    I suspect it’s because it shifts the locus of responsibility. “Unrequited love” focuses on the person who has the crush. The feelings being discussed are the crushing person’s, thus the responsibility in on them to get over their crush and move on. “Friend zone”, on the other hand, focuses on the crush object’s choices. The phrase erases the agency of the crushing person. All blame for their pain is put on the crush object. “Unrequited love” is something that can happen to both sexes, but “friend zone” is a sexist concept that implies that women are solely responsible for men’s happiness, and not men themselves.

  3. destabilise destabilise
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    August 5, 2014 2:10pm EDT
    when ppl steal my profile layouts

  4. destabilise destabilise
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    July 13, 2014 12:16am EDT
    White people get so angry at the phrase, “You cannot be rac.ist towards white people.”
    I will never understand why.
    Why are you so angry that you are being treated as actual human beings? You are not reduced to caricatures, but portrayed as characters. You are treated fairly, judged not by your skin tone, but by the ways that you carry yourselves, by your actions.
    Why do you want to experience rac.ism so badly? It is not fun to be mocked, dehumanized, attacked, killed, incarcerated simply for daring to exist. It is not fun to know nothing of your history or family because it was torn apart, whether through distance or death. It is not fun to hear, at every turn, comments reminding you of your lesser status as humans.
    Do you really want to turn on the tv, open a magazine, watch a movie, play a video game, and not see yourself? Or, even better, to only see yourself as a criminal, as a drunk, a mocking stereotype, or as someone to be killed off? Or would you rather see fleshed out, well-written characters with lives and personalities and feelings? I know which I’d rather pick.
    If I were a white person, the phrase, “You cannot be rac.ist towards white people,” would be the best thing I could ever hear.

  5. destabilise destabilise
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    June 29, 2014 4:34pm EDT
    Yes, I was infatuated with you: I am still. No one has ever heightened such a keen capacity of physical sensation in me. I cut you out because I couldn’t stand being a passing fancy. Before I give my body, I must give my thoughts, my mind, my dreams. And you weren’t having any of those.
    —— Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

  6. destabilise destabilise
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    February 10, 2014 5:36pm EST
    “i am mine.
    before i am ever anyone else’s.

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    February 6, 2014 8:47pm EST
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  8. destabilise destabilise
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    January 26, 2014 5:45pm EST
    “We teach girls shame; close your legs, cover yourself, we make them feel as though by being born female they’re already guilty of something."

  9. destabilise destabilise
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    December 20, 2013 5:22pm EST
    “You should date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.”
    You’ve heard of this girl before, her name is Summer or Alaska or something else that sounds cutesy and different because she’s always trying to define herself as not being like ‘other girls’. The girl who reads doesn’t shop, watch sports, play video games or anything else that she deems to be beneath her. She buys books instead of clothes because who needs to be dressed, she is obviously lying if she says she understands Ulysses and doesn’t find a strange man sitting down beside her in a coffeeshop and buying her a drink even though she doesn’t want one to be predatory behavior. It’s okay to lie to or fail her because she confuses real life with fiction, wanting conflict right before the climax and then a sugar-coated happy ending.
    She isn’t a girl at all. She’s an idealized portrait of the already idealized trope of the manic pixie dream girl who only exists to serve as a love interest and teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life’s many mysteries. Women do not exist to complete you or give your life meaning. It is not our job to get you to see the world with ‘renewed eyes’ and we certainly do not live just for you to project your half-baked obsessive fantasies on us and then call us foul names when we don’t fulfill them because excuse us if they’re your visions and not ours.
    And the Girl who Reads is one of the more toxic incarnations of the MPDG because it tells girls that if we like clothes, boys, being around our friends, taking pride in our appearances or anything else that doesn’t seem ‘deep or intellectual’ that we’re catty and jealous. We’re constantly trying to tell ourselves that we’re not like the other girls as if there’s something wrong with them. We all want to seem special and different and quirky so that we’ll eventually find someone whose personality quirks align with ours and create a lasting love affair. The girls who are not like us are called horrible names and treated like they’re worthless as if what they choose to do with their life is our decision. And as girls we cannot help tearing each other down; we see another girl on the street and think ‘oh she’s prettier, skinnier, smarter, more popular, more athletic’.
    With the Girl who Reads we measure a person’s worth based on how many John Green books are on their shelves or if they enjoy Bukowski. You do not have to be widely read or able to wax poetic about your favourite author for hours on end to be intelligent or interesting. But it is not the Girl who Reads who looks down on the girls who don’t and labels them as stupid, catty, vain, promiscuous or boring, it is the people who created the idea of her, they believe that because she is so deep and mysterious that her special snowflake syndrome will prevent judgments from being passed at her. Everybody wants to be different, everybody wants to be special but let me tell you something. You are exactly like those other girls; you all are made of the same atoms that make up the solar system but do not think that because you have nebulae in your bones that you are better than anyone else.
    I am sick and tired of people romanticizing this belief that if you don’t read that you’re not worth being loved. There are countless people I know who don’t like reading and who are still worth being loved the same amount as the people who do. Tumblr users say that they want to live like the Girl who Reads and be suffocated by the amount of literature they own because clearly book hoarding is the best way to go. Great for you if you want to find someone who likes the same things as you to be in a relationship with, you should want that. But if being a hollowed out shell of a manic pixie dream girl is your ideal life then you need to think more about what it means. I refuse to be a blank canvas on which you draw out all your delusions of what life and love should feel like according to you. I do not exist to counterbalance you.
    Stop looking for the Girl who Reads because you won’t find her. There are girls who read but they are not singularly formed archetypes constructed for your approval. Stop looking for someone who fits your 27 point idealized criteria of a person and find someone who’s real. Nobody ends a date by saying ‘wow I think you’re great and all but you’ve never read A Farewell to Arms so it’s not going to work out between us’. That’s just ridiculous. Date someone who makes you laugh so hard that you snort soda out of your nose and even when your shirt is soaked with carbonated bubbles they will still find you and your laugh cute when nobody else does. Date someone who understands when you’re upset with them that you are not just waiting for the plot to advance because the hero always fails at one point or another. Do not fail her, do not lie to her, because she won’t think ‘oh boy this is some conflict before the resolution’ she’ll just think you’re a jerk. Which you are. Date someone who you can love as a human and not as a fairytale. A Girl who Reads may be able to give you a world full of adventure and imagination but you know who could do that even better? A person who actually loves you.
    And pardon if I’m more than a little irked by the fact that we can’t even love each other as humans anymore, pardon if I am a ‘raging feminist harpy’, pardon if I don’t want to be the dramatic backdrop to your trials and tribulations, pardon if I would rather people to see me as a person and not a walking, talking library . But I am 50 shades of done with the elitist belief that reading makes you worth more as a person and why is that? Because I am a girl who reads, I am a girl who writes but most importantly I am a girl.

  10. destabilise destabilise
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    December 19, 2013 2:48pm EST
    You were like the summer.
    Barely anyone appreciated you
    when you were here, but the second
    you were gone, all they did was miss
    you.

  11. destabilise destabilise
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    November 30, 2013 9:34pm EST
    You think it’s cool to hate things. And it’s not. It’s boring. Talk about what you love and keep quiet about what you don’t.

  12. destabilise destabilise
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    November 30, 2013 9:27pm EST
    Do not kiss the first boy who
    calls you beautiful.
    Do not fall in love with the
    first boy who looks
    at you like you are the answer
    to the question he has
    been asking himself all his life.
    This is is easier said than done.
    He will have a wishing
    well of a mouth,
    and as much as you want
    to believe what he says is true,
    you should know that
    his lips are hiding lies
    between each crinkle
    of his smile.
    Unfold him, find the truth.
    When he tells you he is hollow,
    that the pennies you left with him
    fell through bottomless pockets,
    do not beg.
    Do not plead.
    Do not reach in for one last kiss.
    He will only take more of you.
    It is what he does,
    his hands are strong for a reason.
    Do not fall in love with a boy
    who calls you beautiful
    until you do not need him to say it
    for it to be true.
    — Y.Z.

  13. destabilise destabilise
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    November 30, 2013 8:40pm EST
    “Sometimes I’d spend days trying to figure out what my life meant, or what meaning it gave. Hours lost in trances, simply wondering at the infinite possibilities that I could become, or create, or influence. Precious minutes I would stare at my reflection, only to feel lost and confused in the end. It’s been years since I asked myself who I was. Years since I questioned my emotions and actions and thoughts, all since I realized how ironic it was to be asking the person who most in the world didn’t know.

  14. destabilise destabilise
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    November 23, 2013 11:24am EST
    Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them f.uckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.
    Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
    That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a s.lut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
    The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.

  15. destabilise destabilise
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    November 23, 2013 9:22am EST
    “I wish more people cared about the earth as much as they cared about who they believed created it.”

  16. destabilise destabilise
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    November 9, 2013 11:52am EST
    I will destroy you in the most beautiful way possible, and when I leave, you will finally understand why storms are named after people.

  17. destabilise destabilise
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    November 8, 2013 4:41pm EST
    “If you consider a woman less pure after you’ve touched her, maybe you should take a look at your hands.

  18. destabilise destabilise
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    November 8, 2013 3:41pm EST
    1. If you like someone, wait.
    2. Give lots of compliments, even if you’re shy. Everyone else is too.
    3. Change. Get a haircut, try new perfume, get new sheets. Become better than you were before.
    4. Eat healthier. Learn to cook something fancy.
    5. Get up earlier and watch the sun come up.
    6. Wear soft clothes, take a bath, drink something warm.
    7. Meet someone new, even just a friend.
    8. Become closer with your friends and your family. Call your mother. Cry with your best friend. Tell everyone how much you appreciate them.
    9. Keep your room clean. Buy some candles. Let the natural light in.
    10. Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are.
    11. Listen to new music.
    12. Write everything you’re thinking and feeling. Write letters. Write happy letters, sad letters, and angry letters, even if you’re never going to send them.
    13. It’s okay to be sad, but not forever. Sadness is not as beautiful as music makes it seem. Lack of sleep makes your eyes droopy, not deep. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re going to have a good day.
    14. Go to the library. Don’t forget to look in the music section.
    15. Remove them from your life. Get rid of the things they gave you if they make you sad. They’re not worth it. You will never be happy if you continue to hold on to the things that make you sad.
    16. Make new memories.
    17. Try to find something to appreciate in everything you do or experience.
    18. Being alone is okay, you don’t have to surround yourself with people.
    19. Become your own best friend. Buy yourself coffee and drink it alone in a cafe. Take your time.
    20. Learn to love every bit of yourself.

  19. destabilise destabilise
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    November 7, 2013 9:01pm EST
    I romanticized you
 to the point where
 the knives you
 pressed into my skin
 began to look like
 Cupid’s arrows.

  20. destabilise destabilise
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    October 29, 2013 7:53pm EDT
    a woman’s body is not for you. if she wants to cover it she should feel free and safe in doing so. if she wants to expose it she should feel free and safe in doing so. it is not an indication of her self-respect but an indication of her preferences for whatever reasons she chooses — none of which are your business or concern.

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