ItsADirectionerThing
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1 decade ago
Hiya. Well, I know this seems stupid, me running to you because of guy problems. But you're my last resort, really. You see, there's this guy I've liked for the longest time. Three years to be exact. But we never started talking until this school year. I had no one but my best friend to thank for that, and I do everyday. My crush and I became very close, and I only thought it was right to tell him I liked him. And I did. To his face. But since then, he's been avoiding me. He just hasn't been talking to me. Occasionally, I'll catch him staring, but that's all. I've self harmed because of stressed that he's caused me. And I want noting more than our friendship back. Even better, a relationship. But I'd rather a friendship than nothing at all. Please help? reply
jimmy365
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1 decade ago
FIrst of all I want to focus on the self-harm. I understand that you may not be suicidal, but self-harm can kill you. One wrong place or time, and you're dead. Physical pain is easier to deal with than emotional pain, but cannot heal the underlying issue. I am so confident that you could stop cutting today if you wanted to. I am so confident in your control of your situation. You have complete control. Breathe. I want you to have someone to turn to outside of your immediate situation, someone objective. 1-630-482-9696. This is the depression hotline. I want you to call them as soon as you are finished reading this. They will take you on a crazy, beautiful ride to recovery. Now, about this boy. Here is what I know: When a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time. This boy has shown you he is the kind of guy who will run and hide in the time of surprise and honesty. He has shown you that is who he is. Believe him. Ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with him if honesty triggers such a reaction. There is nothing a person can do to make a person come back to their life. You can, however, give him the oppurtunity to come back if he should decide to. Invite him into your life by being at peace with the situation and letting go of the hurt that came to you with his reactions. Love doesn't hurt. Know that you can love him whether he chooses to be in your life or not. That is what I believe you need to do. Please consider. reply
ItsADirectionerThing · 1 decade ago
Hiya. Well, I know this seems stupid, me running to you because of guy problems. But you're my last resort, really. You see, there's this guy I've liked for the longest time. Three years to be exact. But we never started talking until this school year. I had no one but my best friend to thank for that, and I do everyday. My crush and I became very close, and I only thought it was right to tell him I liked him. And I did. To his face. But since then, he's been avoiding me. He just hasn't been talking to me. Occasionally, I'll catch him staring, but that's all. I've self harmed because of stressed that he's caused me. And I want noting more than our friendship back. Even better, a relationship. But I'd rather a friendship than nothing at all. Please help?
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jimmy365 · 1 decade ago
FIrst of all I want to focus on the self-harm. I understand that you may not be suicidal, but self-harm can kill you. One wrong place or time, and you're dead. Physical pain is easier to deal with than emotional pain, but cannot heal the underlying issue. I am so confident that you could stop cutting today if you wanted to. I am so confident in your control of your situation. You have complete control. Breathe. I want you to have someone to turn to outside of your immediate situation, someone objective. 1-630-482-9696. This is the depression hotline. I want you to call them as soon as you are finished reading this. They will take you on a crazy, beautiful ride to recovery. Now, about this boy. Here is what I know: When a person shows you who they are, believe them the first time. This boy has shown you he is the kind of guy who will run and hide in the time of surprise and honesty. He has shown you that is who he is. Believe him. Ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with him if honesty triggers such a reaction. There is nothing a person can do to make a person come back to their life. You can, however, give him the oppurtunity to come back if he should decide to. Invite him into your life by being at peace with the situation and letting go of the hurt that came to you with his reactions. Love doesn't hurt. Know that you can love him whether he chooses to be in your life or not. That is what I believe you need to do. Please consider.
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