hey witty,
i need your help.

My dad died 2 years ago. In January it will be 3.(RIP<3) He lost
his life to cancer, but he battled it for about 2 years prior. I'm very
proud of him and i live everyday for him. My mom went through
half a year of depression but she got back on track. She is now
dating again. I don't really mind it- it's just, I'm not sure if I can
ever call a step-dad "Daddy". The guy she is dating now is Jim, and
he is actaully really nice and i really like him. He has two daughters
and a boy. The boy and one of the girls are twins. They go to my
school and are in my grade. Here's where my problem is; I went
out with the boy for like 2 years. He is really hot and it will be
really awkward. And then his sister is like really shy and a book
worm. (Nothing wrong with that) It's just we are nothing alike.
The boy also has a rep. for being a dick. There mom died a
year ago in a car-crash. I'm really proud of my mom for dating
again, and I know my dad would like to see her happy. It's just
I don't know what to do about his kids. My mom and Jim have
been dating for about 1/2 a year now and there perfect. (Besides
my real dad and mom) So...

witty, i need your help.

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xxlExiExx · 1 decade ago
One of my friends this happened to her and she was as supportive as she could be. It turned out good her mom and step-dad got married. For you I would say be supportive and help out with your brothers &sisters(if you have any). Because if she datig again it's a good sign that she's moving on. And about the hot guy......if he goes along with them dating pretend you and him never dated (I know it's hard) but you want what's best for your mom right? do what you think is right. There are so many options out there for guys your lucky she didn't pick a weird one. About your to be step-sister bookworm oh well you wanna have a good relationship with your family get to know her, so that you at least are friends.
That's all the advice I got for ya.
~lexi~
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j9ksr · 1 decade ago
Honestly, there's not much you can do....but be supportive of your mom. However...have you actually spoken to her about your dilemma? Maybe you should just voice your concern....just so she's aware. Tell her you approve of Jim and are happy for her, but that you're slightly uncomfortable with the kids--due to differences and such. She could not only..A) be aware but B) perhaps offer suggestions to you. Just a thought. The boy you dated for two years could be a dick because it's a coverup for hurting over his mom. And for that matter, he may think it is just as awkward that you could possibly be step-siblings. Also realize that both Jim and your mom lost the loves of their lives.....1/2 year of dating is not very long....so even though they're perfect for each other....perhap they want to give it a significant amount of time before it gets to the marriage level. Thus, in turn, giving all of you kids a chance...to...warm up to each other. At any rate, go in with an open-mind. Be civil, if anything. However, I do really suggest talking to your mom. And...FYI, you and the girl might have more in common than you realize. :o) Good luck! And...I'm sorry for your loss...losing someone is never easy.
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