Chad
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1 decade ago
mee, but then I met them later. reply
x555quotes555x
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1 decade ago
Something must have caused that silence that is between you two.
Think back about everything said and done in march. From normal conversations with friends to deep conversations with her.
You say you talked to her about your problems, but did she ever talk to you about hers? She was there for you, but were you always there for her?
If she was your best friend, she too cant just forget about your friendship; for all you know it could be that someone told her a lie saying you said stuff about her when you actually didnt, and she believed that person over you because she was afraid to confront you because shes scared...
this is your last year in middle school, and if you end it bad, it wont help for next year. If you two drift apart now, over the summer it will get worse and next thing you know, you wont even look at each other next year.
go up to her and apologize even though you dont think you did anything. show her you would be ready to take a bullet for her. show her you are sorry even though you dont know why. show her you care. maybe you think she isnt coming to you, or maybe she thinks you arent coming to her. dont go up to her and act casual, just go up to her and ask tell her: im sorry, i need you, i cant go on like this anymore, you are my best friend, i am truly sorry for whatever i did, we cant drop this friendship because it is what gets me going thru the day etc etc...
and if she ever saw you as a best friend, she wont just sit there and say nothing. if she doesnt do anything though, it would mean she didnt see you as much of a best friend as much as you did, and you two were not true friends (hope this doesnt happen though)
you can never forget a best friend, but you can learn to live without them because if she doesnt care its not worth wasting best days of your life crying every day. you have to find someone else who will be your true friend.
but make sure you show her that you care.
i best of luck
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skittlesxo88
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1 decade ago
well.. ik its hard letting go of a best friend... i would say you just need to talk to her and ask whats wrong...she culd be going thro a hard time... let her know u still want to be her friend.. but if she still calls u all the names..mayb shes not worth it... mayb you guys r just growing apart...but stay calm ik its upsetting to think ur losing a friend... i hope everything works out :) reply
suessical102
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1 decade ago
okay i know what you mean!! i knew this girl and we were friends FOREVER!!! and then she started making fun of me and telling me i can't hang out with anyone but her and there was this guy that i loved and i told her that i would not keep that promise and i went to talk to him and then she called me later that night and was saying REALLY REALLY bad things to me and i cried SO HARD everyday every night but now one hangs out with her because she was SO mean to them but i think if your friend is not being there for you then she isn't your friend you should call her and tell her she is really hurting your feelings and ask her why she is calling you names and stuff but always remember that even thou she is mean to you your always special and someday that is going to hunt her :-) i feel really bad for you i know how hard it is :-( good luck with everything reply
hiddenshadows
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1 decade ago
I've been through this many times..
As experienced as we all are..*sighs* we're not as experiernced as adults.
I'm so sorry to say this but she could be doing.. drugs.
That, is what changes a person.
Or maybe she's just made many decisions that have affected her a human being.
I know exactly what you're going through but the greatest thing you could do, is talk to your parents/councelor. They've been through this and know EXACTLY what to tell you.
We all have been through things like this but our experience will never match up to one of an adults.
Confront her. reply
ashleyx3
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1 decade ago
Hey, I know exactly how you feel if that's any consolation. Honestly, if she's saying stuff like that she isn't being a friend to you and she doesn't deserve a friend like you. Don't sink down to her level, I don't know if you would or have, but it's not even worth your time. Don't blame anyone else, it's not their fault and that's also a waste of your time. If she's a true friend, she'll realize one day that you were so good to her and that you deserved better, and she WILL apologize. But until then you can't let yourself get down. She's not worth your tears, seriously. Instead of feeling sad, I know it'll be hard but you have to try to find something better. Just remember there are people out there who love you for exactly who you are, so don't change to make her happy. Also try listening to music, it'll probably help :) Best of luck, I hope I helped, let me know how it goes! -Ashley reply
xXTwilightlvrXx1901
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1 decade ago
ahhh sorry the comment below well it didnt put everything i said, the rest is i said no offense about the B*tch thing and well the basketball thing could be the reason shes changing because shes proabably best friends with everyone on her team and thats probably whats changing her. Because thats exactly what happend to my friend. & u said she was better than you for basketball so her friends are probably making fun of you and shes going along with them because she probably thinks there cool, well maybe i dont know her so i cant really tell u exactly why but its just on what ive experienced. If you need any more help or advice just ask! - Dakotah reply
OMExoxo21
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1 decade ago
well you have options! kay option one which i believe to be the best! okay stand up for yourself! tell here what you just said! tell her that she has changed! ask her what you did wrong she is prolly just trying to be idk cool well stand up fro yourself when she calls you names option 2 i no you dont wanna leave her but obviously she has already left you i no you prolly loe her and all but just let go you could even confront her on closher. but recomend the first option. tell her how you feel and that she is being a . tell me how it goes! reply
xdisenchantedx
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1 decade ago
hey dude the names katie, almost the same thing happened to me TWICE with two of my best friends so i hear ya. you have to tell her what shes doing wheather she wants to listen or not. MAKE her listen my one friend would almost make fun of me and would be "just kidding" but day after day it got annoying and i was hurt and i wasnt going to take it anymore so i told her like it is and now we get along wayyy better. were not perfect but still. just tell her that you feel shes been treatin you like crap and that you need her. and tell her all the stuff shes been doing. i dont know hwat more to say cause idk you. also maybe basketball is something that can help you guys biuld your friendship up agian. comment me back. and you can always vent or w/e to me people like coming to me for some reason haha. i wish you the best
~disenchanted reply
xXTwilightlvrXx1901
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1 decade ago
Listen, ik exactly how you feel, i have a best friend who ive been friends with since 1st grade and she started to hang out with other people and there group is a VERY bad influence and she became a . But i still love her and shes been threw a lot but she started making fun of me and calling me horrible things that hurt me and made me cry. & i didnt want her out of my life and we went 2 months without talking just because she got mad tht i didnt like her "new friends." & for me this has been going on since March to. What i learned is you need to confront the person and talk to them. If they dont talk right a note to her talking about how you've been best friends and all the fun times youve had together and ask her why she all of a sudden turned into a B*itch reply
Chad · 1 decade ago
mee, but then I met them later.
reply
x555quotes555x · 1 decade ago
Something must have caused that silence that is between you two.
Think back about everything said and done in march. From normal conversations with friends to deep conversations with her.
You say you talked to her about your problems, but did she ever talk to you about hers? She was there for you, but were you always there for her?
If she was your best friend, she too cant just forget about your friendship; for all you know it could be that someone told her a lie saying you said stuff about her when you actually didnt, and she believed that person over you because she was afraid to confront you because shes scared...
this is your last year in middle school, and if you end it bad, it wont help for next year. If you two drift apart now, over the summer it will get worse and next thing you know, you wont even look at each other next year.
go up to her and apologize even though you dont think you did anything. show her you would be ready to take a bullet for her. show her you are sorry even though you dont know why. show her you care. maybe you think she isnt coming to you, or maybe she thinks you arent coming to her. dont go up to her and act casual, just go up to her and ask tell her: im sorry, i need you, i cant go on like this anymore, you are my best friend, i am truly sorry for whatever i did, we cant drop this friendship because it is what gets me going thru the day etc etc...
and if she ever saw you as a best friend, she wont just sit there and say nothing. if she doesnt do anything though, it would mean she didnt see you as much of a best friend as much as you did, and you two were not true friends (hope this doesnt happen though)
you can never forget a best friend, but you can learn to live without them because if she doesnt care its not worth wasting best days of your life crying every day. you have to find someone else who will be your true friend.
but make sure you show her that you care.
i best of luck
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skittlesxo88 · 1 decade ago
well.. ik its hard letting go of a best friend... i would say you just need to talk to her and ask whats wrong...she culd be going thro a hard time... let her know u still want to be her friend.. but if she still calls u all the names..mayb shes not worth it... mayb you guys r just growing apart...but stay calm ik its upsetting to think ur losing a friend... i hope everything works out :)
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suessical102 · 1 decade ago
okay i know what you mean!! i knew this girl and we were friends FOREVER!!! and then she started making fun of me and telling me i can't hang out with anyone but her and there was this guy that i loved and i told her that i would not keep that promise and i went to talk to him and then she called me later that night and was saying REALLY REALLY bad things to me and i cried SO HARD everyday every night but now one hangs out with her because she was SO mean to them but i think if your friend is not being there for you then she isn't your friend you should call her and tell her she is really hurting your feelings and ask her why she is calling you names and stuff but always remember that even thou she is mean to you your always special and someday that is going to hunt her :-) i feel really bad for you i know how hard it is :-( good luck with everything
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hiddenshadows · 1 decade ago
I've been through this many times..
As experienced as we all are..*sighs* we're not as experiernced as adults.
I'm so sorry to say this but she could be doing.. drugs.
That, is what changes a person.
Or maybe she's just made many decisions that have affected her a human being.
I know exactly what you're going through but the greatest thing you could do, is talk to your parents/councelor. They've been through this and know EXACTLY what to tell you.
We all have been through things like this but our experience will never match up to one of an adults.
Confront her.
reply
ashleyx3 · 1 decade ago
Hey, I know exactly how you feel if that's any consolation. Honestly, if she's saying stuff like that she isn't being a friend to you and she doesn't deserve a friend like you. Don't sink down to her level, I don't know if you would or have, but it's not even worth your time. Don't blame anyone else, it's not their fault and that's also a waste of your time. If she's a true friend, she'll realize one day that you were so good to her and that you deserved better, and she WILL apologize. But until then you can't let yourself get down. She's not worth your tears, seriously. Instead of feeling sad, I know it'll be hard but you have to try to find something better. Just remember there are people out there who love you for exactly who you are, so don't change to make her happy. Also try listening to music, it'll probably help :) Best of luck, I hope I helped, let me know how it goes! -Ashley
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xXTwilightlvrXx1901 · 1 decade ago
ahhh sorry the comment below well it didnt put everything i said, the rest is i said no offense about the B*tch thing and well the basketball thing could be the reason shes changing because shes proabably best friends with everyone on her team and thats probably whats changing her. Because thats exactly what happend to my friend. & u said she was better than you for basketball so her friends are probably making fun of you and shes going along with them because she probably thinks there cool, well maybe i dont know her so i cant really tell u exactly why but its just on what ive experienced. If you need any more help or advice just ask! - Dakotah
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OMExoxo21 · 1 decade ago
well you have options! kay option one which i believe to be the best! okay stand up for yourself! tell here what you just said! tell her that she has changed! ask her what you did wrong she is prolly just trying to be idk cool well stand up fro yourself when she calls you names option 2 i no you dont wanna leave her but obviously she has already left you i no you prolly loe her and all but just let go you could even confront her on closher. but recomend the first option. tell her how you feel and that she is being a . tell me how it goes!
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xdisenchantedx · 1 decade ago
hey dude the names katie, almost the same thing happened to me TWICE with two of my best friends so i hear ya. you have to tell her what shes doing wheather she wants to listen or not. MAKE her listen my one friend would almost make fun of me and would be "just kidding" but day after day it got annoying and i was hurt and i wasnt going to take it anymore so i told her like it is and now we get along wayyy better. were not perfect but still. just tell her that you feel shes been treatin you like crap and that you need her. and tell her all the stuff shes been doing. i dont know hwat more to say cause idk you. also maybe basketball is something that can help you guys biuld your friendship up agian. comment me back. and you can always vent or w/e to me people like coming to me for some reason haha. i wish you the best
~disenchanted
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xXTwilightlvrXx1901 · 1 decade ago
Listen, ik exactly how you feel, i have a best friend who ive been friends with since 1st grade and she started to hang out with other people and there group is a VERY bad influence and she became a . But i still love her and shes been threw a lot but she started making fun of me and calling me horrible things that hurt me and made me cry. & i didnt want her out of my life and we went 2 months without talking just because she got mad tht i didnt like her "new friends." & for me this has been going on since March to. What i learned is you need to confront the person and talk to them. If they dont talk right a note to her talking about how you've been best friends and all the fun times youve had together and ask her why she all of a sudden turned into a B*itch
reply