ToriRox16 · 1 decade ago
Don't feel bad about saying no. It's better to get an honest no for a legitimate reason than to get a yes out of pity. She knows that Courtney just passed away right? So she would understand that you are in. lot of pain and you aren't ready for a new girlfriend yet. Maybe you guys can be friends, and maybe even eventually you might date. But right now you have a real reason not to date anyone, and she should have respected that.
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Witty_Queenx08 · 1 decade ago
Honestly, I"d rather deal with the pain of rejection and get the honest "no". Then, have the humiliation of someone saying "yes" just because they felt bad for me. Don't feel bad for sticking with your heart.
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UgottaLuvMe · 1 decade ago
It's okay. When I read this quote, I'm just imagining you. You seem so strong. Whether you feel like it or not. I think you did the total right thing. Maybe you should go up to her and tell her why. Tell her it wasn't anything against her. :/ I think you are such a strong person. If you ever, and I mean EVER need someone to talk to, I'm here.
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wordynerdy · 1 decade ago
It's going to take time for you to heal and she will realize that, trust me. You did the right thing. I had a guy lie to me once. In 6th grade me and my friend were both head over heals for the smae guy. I wasn't allowed to date but I told him so that we could be close friends. He said he felt the same way about me. My friend cried herself to sleep. He then told her that he liked her. SHe told me and he told me that it was just because he felt bad. 2 weeks later I found out they had started dating and he had lied to me because he didn' want to make me feel bad. It was 10x worse than it ever would've been if he had just said he didn't like me in the first place. So don't feel bad. You told the truth and that will be what i best.
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CharliesTheName · 1 decade ago
It's okay. She was really nervous and obviously knew that it was a lot to ask you out after Courtney just passed. I think that her being nervous was part of showing that she was aware that you weren't ready to move on and wasn't expecting a big yes. She may seem let down right now but she will realize soon enough that it's not because you hate her or anything, you just need healing time. Everything will be fine.
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seafoam* · 1 decade ago
You still need to heal, and that's going to take time. Nothing's wrong with politely declining, and you're absolutely not a scumbag. But remember, there's also nothing wrong with seeing someone - when you're ready, of course. It doesn't mean you're replacing your girlfriend or that you've stopped loving her, it just means you're ready to be happy again. And I think she would want that. She would want you to find happiness, because you deserve it. I'm here if you ever need to talk about it with someone.
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1D_Babyyy · 1 decade ago
Look, you weren't being a d!ck. at. all! Your girlfriend just died, and you aren't ready to move on yet...you weren't just saying no because you felt like it. You had a very valid reason, and she probably understands that...
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chocomickey14 · 1 decade ago
Being a girl i would feel totally crushed and just wanted sit in my room and watch movies all day. I'm sorry you had to do that , but i understand where you're coming from because i didn't really know Courtney but i understand why you couldn't say yes. I'm here to say it's ok that girl will get over it and hopefully you guys can be friends.
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