Nine Important Things
to Remember When Your
Life Feels Like
a Complete S.hitshow
1. Everything is
temporary.
I know this is so cliche, right? Like, what total bullsh*t LOL.
Because when painful stuff goes down, it doesn’t
feel temporary. It feels like forever. Emotions are often
intense, and when you’re looking in all directions, but
still see them EVERYWHERE, it’s hard to imagine them ever
fading. We don’t see an ending, but I promise there is
one.
There are places in northern Alaska where, during the winter, it
can be night for up to 67 straight days. But after the longest,
darkest night imaginable, the sun does eventually rise. A new day
does come. And it will for you too.
2. Growth happens in pain.
Life isn’t a movie as much as it is a painting. We
can’t think of things sequentially, this-leading-to-that.
Rather, we are living all the parts that will ultimately come
together to create a beautiful work — even when it
isn’t clear how they will EVER do so.
3. Failing doesn't make you a failure.
Nothing great has every happened without mistakes. Virtually
everything great that has ever happened in the world has been
preceded by a mine-field of f*ckups and missteps. If you have
recently experienced what seems like a domino chain of failings,
know that that doesn’t make you a failure.
It means you are slowly weeding out things that don’t work,
and won’t work for you. You are one step closer to that
dream relationship, dream job, dream life. You just have to
summon the courage to keep going.
4. Everyone has bad nights.
We’ve all been there. Those nights that end with us leaning
over a toilet hacking up shots of cranberry vodka and regret.
Those lonely nights where we text our ex, have a bad hookup, or
do something we wish we could take back. Those nights were we
feel anger, sadness, fear, helplessness, despair.
These are human emotions, human moments, human experiences. Why
do we want so badly to not be human?
Of course, the answer is obvious — these emotions suck.
They suck big time. But they are apart of us. Shake it off and
keep going. Your life is not defined by your worst moment. You
are so so much more than that.
5. People who leave you are people you shouldn't
miss.
Too often we surround ourselves with people who have conditional
relationships with us. We let ourselves get put into boxes and
get used by people who don’t offer us anything permanent.
Who don’t offer us anything unconditionally.
And that’s not to say that having acquaintances or
superficial friendships is a bad thing. Sometimes they’re
great! But you absolutely must stop blaming yourself for people
who walk out of your life. If they leave, they weren’t
meant to stay, and that’s okay.
6. Drama is inevitable, what you do about it
isn't.
People are always gonna talk about people. Sh*t is gonna go down,
but it doesn’t have to take you down with it.
Sometimes in the messiest, stupidest drama we discover who our
true friends are.
7. Money is important, but not the most
important.
So maybe you’re broke, god knows I am. And it’s easy
to say, “Oh, money doesn’t matter! Oh live your
life, money will come!” but we all know that to one
degree or another, we rely on money. But what’s important
is that you have enough of it it to sustain your needs, not how
much you have relative to other people, which tends to be EXACTLY
the thing society focuses on.
If you have enough money to pay your rent, fill your stomach, and
buy a box of wine, you’re doing fine.
8. Everybody is jealous of someone.
Don’t beat yourself up for being envious of a classmate or
friend. Nobody is immune from a little jealousy now and again.
Just don’t let envy completely take over your life. Take a
step back every now and again and think about the things you do
have, rather than the things you haven’t.
9. Nobody knows what the f*ck they're
doing.
Even the most well put together person is worried about
something. Even the one co-worker who has a 401k, nice car, and
adorable dog is struggling. We are all in this together. Life
isn’t easy, but don’t spend it being hard on
yourself. We all have a limited amount of time, and nobody is
getting out of it alive.
