i've barely talked to him in 3 months and this is what he said:

"If that's what ud prefer. I just want u to know there is nothing I can do to convince u. The moment u realize u r happy with urself is the moment u will live a much better life. The day u finally don't give a sh.t, is gonna be the best day of ur life. I mean can u fix it, yes? Then dont worry about it and try fixing it. If u can't fix it, then don't worry about it, theres nothing u can do. So be happy with the cards u were delt cuz u can always be much worse off. Ur a beautiful young girl. Act like it. Night."

so not everyone is stupid.