seafoam* posted a quote
December 2, 2016 9:15am UTC
“ post-heartbreak survival. The heart is resilient, I mean literally. When a body is burned, the heart is the last organ to oxidize. While the rest of the body can catch flame like a polyester sheet on a campfire, it takes hours to burn the heart to ash. My dear sister, a near-perfect organ! Solid, inflammable. —Ibi Kaslik ”
So many people do not seem to realize being really skinny can actually have a lot of downsides. Just because you are a size 0 and you are really thin, does not mean you feel pretty, or confident. And it does not mean you are more liked... skinny is a body type, and not everyone likes it... People tell me I am too skinny all the time, tell me to eat more, and tell me I would look better if I weighed more....that is not fun to hear Being skinny does not take away all your problems
I do not like when people say “when I am skinny, I will finally be happy”...or “when I am skinny, he will finally notice me”....Losing weight does not necessarily mean you become any happier, and people do not always notice you just because you become thinner...If you have low self esteem to begin with, making yourself smaller wont always make you feel better about yourself...I am naturally skinny and always have been. Then I lost even more weight (because I developed an eating disorder) and now I feel even worse about myself... so just because you have an idea in your head that being skinny equals being happy, it does not mean its true for everyone...
Downsides of being skinny. I love wearing bracelets but have a hard time finding ones that fit my wrists...I do not wear rings because I always lose them. If you are really skinny, not everyone finds it attractive...in fact, people can give you rude looks or comments. My parents know I am anorexic, and the fact that I am so skinny, bothers them, so sometimes I even have to change my clothes because they do not want to see how skinny I am. I have a sister who tells me I would look better if I gained weight.. I am afraid to take pictures of myself, because I dont want people telling me I am too skinny...Being skinny also does not mean you feel pretty or you wear whatever you want....It does not always mean you get noticed more....in fact, you can get ignored
Being skinny does not mean your life is perfect or easier..It also does not mean you are more confident. I am really skinny and I still feel bad about myself. I am so insecure about my weight, that I am worried to start an Instagram page because I dont want people making rude comments...Being thin does not protect you from insecurity and it does not mean you feel pretty. Most days, I do not feel pretty or beautiful at all
In 2nd grade I hated my skin In 3rd grade I thought I was too fat In 4th grade I didn't identify with being a girl. And I cut. In 5th grade I hated how I wasn't getting curves In 6th grade I hated how I was 'ginger' In 7th grade I hated how I was naturally very skinny The point of posting this isn't to get pitty. It's to show that issues like this aren't just things experienced by teenagers. They can happen at any age. And that people need to stop saying that someone is "too young" to understand something; because chances are they're not. Instead of just dismissing these things as issues we need to adress with teenagers we should start younger. Perhaps if we accepted the fact that even young children have body and self esteem issues then we could stop them there instead of letting the issues worsen as they grow. We don't want to think of little kids knowing about and having problems like these but lots of them do; and when we realize and accept that young children are at least partially aware of these things then we can more efficently fix them.
"being fat is unhealthy.." k. but you know what? mental health is just as important as physical health, and f.ucking telling someone they'd be so much better off dropping a couple of pounds f.ucks with their mental health. honestly, when I was in school, I didn't eat. I didn't drink anything. I put nothing near my mouth, because I f.ucking knew a.ssholes would just be like "aaaayyye, the fatty is eating." so, I pretty much starved myself until 4-5pm every single day. is that healthy? no. I still don't eat in front of anyone. I'll eat in front of my friend but that is it. I won't even eat in front of my cousins because they both have called me names that have to do with my weight. is that healthy? I f.ucking doubt it. like, do you think it's healthy to go to bed thinking you're just some piece of s.hit because you weigh more than you should? thinking that you're some disgusting person? do you think it's healthy to wake up hating yourself? do you think it's healthy to go to bed, hating yourself? it's not f.ucking healthy. it's mentally unhealthy, and it's just as important as physical health. *I know when someone makes a quote about weight, people with the opposite body type comment talking about all the body shaming they have to deal with. I'd just like to say, I have not skinny shamed, I will not skinny shame. I'm not about that. this quote isn't about that. this is about body shaming I can relate to, and is to the idiots that use health as a reason to ruin someone's mental health. I just want to clear that up just in case anyone decides to comment accusing me of shaming those with different body types than mine, because if it comes off that way, then you either took it way wrong or I typed something incorrectly.*
I see you like 'em skinny, with brunette hair You look at her like that and it's just unfair I'll never be pretty by your standards anyway. I'll never have her blue eyes or her beautiful face. You hold her the way I wish you'd hold me. She's your cutie-pie, she's what I want to be. I'm not experienced in the feild of love. But I like how you sound and I'm turning it up
It's just as bad to call people skinny or tell them to eat more as it is to call someone fat. How about we don't say comments about anyone's weight or body type and let people make choices about themselves.
Just because you are skinny, doesn't mean you are instantly more noticed or loved by people. Just because you lose weight, doesn't mean guys like you more, or girls envy you more Being thin doesn't mean you feel beautiful, or even pretty. The words "skinny, thin, and weight loss" are overrated, because they make people think achieving or being these things makes you happier, or better. They don't....Skinny people can be terribly inseucre about their bodies, skinny people can feel ugly, skinny people can hate the way they look. Skinny people can get completely ignored, skinny people don't always show off their bodies or are proud of their weight loss. People need to stop think being skinny or losing weight, is this magic road to happiness. It's not....Losing weight doesn't always get rid of insecurity. Those feelings you have don't go away, by simply weighing less than you did before
Telling a skinny person that they are too skinny and that they should go "eat a sandwich" is just as offensive as telling a fat person they are too fat, and that they shoud eat less Skinny shaming is a real problem, it happens all the time, in the most ignorant ways People accuse skinny people of being anorexic or starving themselves Yea, people have anorexia and people do starve themselves But its just plain wrong and insulting to assume all thin people are thin because they are unhealthy lots of thin people have a high metabolism, they are skinny due to their genetics, gaining weight might be really difficult for them Lots of people play sports and are thin because they have a profession that requires them to be skinny this doesn't mean they are unhealthy skinny doesn't mean anorexic anorexic doesn't mean just being skinny and telling people like this to just go eat a sandwich and that will solve the supposed problem, is ignorant because it actually doesn't solve anything, it just shows how rude people are
Comparing yourself to another person or a picture is setting yourself up for feeling bad. because you are basically saying you are not good enough as you are, right now....People post thinspiration and all that, and think its motivating them to change....actually what it is doing is destroying any individuality and sense of self worth you have, if your self esteem is already low, complaining that you hate yourself or that you are fat, or wishing you looked like another person or a picture, is automatically going to make you feel like crap.....I wish people could just look at themselves in the mirror and say "I like myself, I look good today, I really like this certain thing about myself" But i understand that is hard to do......
Can everyone please quit with this whole "thigh gap" obsession? A thigh gap is NOT important-no matter what those silly "pro ana" tumblr girls try to convince you of Thigh gaps are part of your bone structure, they have nothing to do with how thin or fat you are Some people have thigh gaps, nothing wrong with that Some people don't have thigh gaps, also nothing wrong with that What is very wrong is shaming girls and making them obsess and feel bad about themselves, because they don't have a thigh gap Let me explain how meanigless thigh gaps are: I have had anorexia for 8 years! Up until this year, I had no freaking clue what a thigh gap was I have never obsessed or worried about having a thigh gap The thigh gap thing is weird, its a weird thing to spend your time focusing on, because it really is silly and insignificant A thigh gap can't be achieved from extreme dieting, its based on your bone structure My legs are naturally small, I guess I would consider myself to also I have a thigh gap No one has ever said anything to me about it....guys, thingh gaps mean nothing.... if you have one, cool. if you don't, don't beat yourself up about it