this is so important please read... listen to me. no fr just listen. put aside all your hate and get rid of the tension. you dont like someone because they're differet than you? because they grew up different and talk different, they look different than you? they dont have the same clothes as you, maybe they dont even speak the same language as you...so what? Ya. okay so we're all different. this world is so beautiful because of the diversity in it..honestly i love it. i hope we never get rid of it. i pray we can all learn to love each other. i pray all those you hate, one day you'll call brother. i wish things were just perfect. i wish kids like us didnt die..our generation its like all we do is cry. how many of your friends have committed suicide? how many times have YOU tried? how many times have you laid awake at night, tear stains on your pillow as you quietly cried? ya i know, because ive been there too, im right there with you..all we can really do is get through..its hard. you cant see the light and its like the whole 🌎 is just dark like night....so when will we stop? stop putting each other down..maybe create someones smile today instead of making them frown. maybe tell someone you love them twice instead of just once..maybe give an extra hug...maybe spend that extra minute with the ones you love..just slow down..its not big things...its really just the little things that can make the big difference. create love today, lets make everyone shine...with all this darkness, i know, you really gotta grind. ya Its not easy to be the only one...you feel all alone tryna shine bright like the sun when all they wanna do is put you down..but just try it...i swear we can make a difference...all we have to do is apply it. Its so simple really...we have to live it..going back to the golden rule..we cant give in. Be different, lets just be ourselves...and except each other for it..we should respect each other for it..ill stand beside my enemy because I have to admit it...i wanna leave this world better than before i was in it. 💓🌎💓
i can't hide it anymore. i am insecure. i overthink. things bother me. i am not the cool girl. i am not the girl who can just laugh it off and smile it away. i am not the low maintenenance, laid back chick where everything stays "casual". i am not the girl who doesn't need reassurance every once in a while that she's good enough because the thought that maybe she isn't never crosses her mind. sometimes things are hard with me. sometimes i have doubts. sometimes i get upset, i get jealous, i cry, i throw fits. sometimes i have desires. sometimes i have emotions. that doesn't make me crazy. sometimes i'm human. just because i can be difficult sometimes does not mean that i am not worth it.
Stop telling little boys they are invalid because they display ‘feminine’ qualities. Like softness is not a quality shown by men at all. Like sensitivity is a thing to be regarded with disgust and unkindness. Stop telling them that they become less when they express emotion. Do not them that it doesn’t matter when boys show emotion, that they deserve to be ignored when they do. Do not dismiss their tears to toughen them up and turn their feelings into a joke because that is how you create sociopaths. Stop saying, ‘You punch like a girl’ or ‘Yeah, that was all right…for a girl’. And stop telling your sons their tears make them girls – as though being a girl is the worst thing in the world. When the truth is being a girl is no different from being a boy when they are both just human beings. Stop demeaning them by making the word ‘woman’ or ‘girl’ a method to control their behavior, a reason to bottle their emotions and instead be volatile and display violent behavior. Stop teaching them to bully each other until they are macho and man up. And the ones of them who do not fit into this ideal are effeminate as if that is a curse. I wish society would stop telling little boys that showing emotion is the same thing as being a girl. And being a girl is the same thing as being weak. Instead, never let your sons forget where their essence was just formed, when their bodies were most vulnerable, they were protected by the womb of a woman. If they ever call all women weak, remind them of the strength of their mother who pulled her whole body apart to give theirs a home. Instead, teach them how to be kind regardless of their gender. Teach them how women and men are strong in their own ways. Teach them to respect the attributes they admire as one human to another. Instead, raise boys who accept people as they are and are strong because of their belief in themselves. Raise boys who are strong enough to display emotion and softness, and not hide their feelings when they display their hopes and dreams. Raise boys who can appreciate the softness of a moonlit night as much as they appreciate the stormy anger of the sea. After all, how are they supposed know how to respect women as much as men, if they are taught from a young age that women are lesser human beings.
understand that life is not a straight line. Life is not a set timeline of milestones. It is okay if you don’t finish school, get married, find a job that supports you, have a family, make money, and live comfortably all by this age, or that age. It’s okay if you do, as long as you understand that if you’re not married by 25, or a Vice President by 30 — or even happy, for that matter — the world isn’t going to condemn you. You are allowed to backtrack. You are allowed to figure out what inspires you. You are allowed time, and I think we often forget that. We choose a program right out of high school because the proper thing to do is to go straight to University. We choose a job right out of University, even if we didn’t love our program, because we just invested time into it. We go to that job every morning because we feel the need to support ourselves abundantly. We take the next step, and the next step, and the next step, thinking that we are fulfilling some checklist for life, and one day we wake up depressed. We wake up stressed out. We feel pressured and don’t know why. That is how you ruin your life.
Please leave format credit to 1986! you are not a trash can so do not allow anyone to dump their insecurities on you. i don’t care if we’ve been friends since we wore diapers and saw each other naked or if we’ve been ultra close emotionally in college or if our moms have hung out since forever - i deserve more than your shΙt. “
“ You’ll be fine. You’re 25. Feeling unsure and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be okay. Even if you don’t feel okay all the time. —Louis C.K. ”
Please leave format credit to 1986! It is imperative we have a good relationship with ourselves as our lives are basically one long mental conversation. Your existence is 80% monologue. Do not allow anybody else to determine how you feel about yourself. “
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February 23, 2016 8:54pm EST
Please leave format credit to 1986! I get upset when people don’t realize that minds get sick just like bodies, and although the symptoms aren’t apparent and obvious, that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve sympathy and understanding. “
Please leave format credit to 1986! From the very beginning you are being told to compare yourself with others. This is the greatest disease; it is like a cancer that goes on destroying your very soul because each individual is unique, and comparison is not possible. “
you text her, she texts you three hours later, you text her four hours later to compensate, she says she likes you but purposely posts photos of herself cuddled up with some other dude so she knows you see it. He tells you he misses you, you tell him you miss him, he deletes you on all forms of social media then disappears off the face of Earth never to be seen from again. STOP IT. This s.hit is not a game. Abandon ship. Stop f.ucking around with people who aren’t worth your time because that means you’re not focusing on the people who are. You’re doing yourself a terrible injustice by letting someone who isn’t worth a damn dictate your feelings.
“ If someone wants to be in your life, they will be. Constantly. Not every now and then. Not sometimes on weekends. Not at 4am every other Thursday when they’re bombed. Constantly. DO NOT accept inconsistency as a form of some warped idea of compassion. You chase drinks, after the bus if you miss it, your dog when he makes a break for it, your hat on an exceedingly windy day – YOU DO NOT CHASE HUMAN BEINGS IN ORDER FOR THEM TO PAY ATTENTION TO YOU. —Lucy Quin ”
If it gets awkward, let it be awkward. That awkwardness is something they created. You don’t owe anyone a performance of being okay when you are not feeling okay so that they can feel better about themselves.