reinventlove · 1 decade ago
If you believe he won't hurt you, stay with him. Go with your heart. :)
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
My parents let me stay with him(: ♥
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ForeverStronger · 1 decade ago
It's true that some kids become abusive, but that's usually because they don't know how to handle a situation so they base it off of what their parents used to do. If he cares about you and hasn't hurt you and is strongly against abuse and everything, then I don't think he'll be one of those kids. If you believe in him, then prove to your parents how great he is. Bring him over to dinner or something, or maybe just show how happy he really makes you. It sounds like your parents are attempting to look out for you, so if you show them he's harmless and that you're happy, then I think everything'll work out. Good luck!<3
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
He's been to my house numerous times, and I found out that my parents are just afraid of what could happen in the future, since his family is really messed up, and they don't want me around that.
They told me he hasn't done anything wrong, but last night, my mom and dad had a long talk, and eventually let me keep him. ♥
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ForeverStronger · 1 decade ago
Aww, I'm so happy for you!(:
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Thanks!
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KayleeAnn22 · 1 decade ago
It's not her choice, you decide who you love and fight for it. Good luck to you. :)
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I wish I could, but she may not let me see him. :/ Thanks for the advice though!(:
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KayleeAnn22 · 1 decade ago
Yeah you're welcome. I understand. Try telling your parents how you feel about the whole thing. But if he shows any signs of abuse I think you should listen to your parents.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
He hasn't shown any signs, thank goodness. Guess what? She let me keep him(:
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KayleeAnn22 · 1 decade ago
OMG YAY!!!!! HURRAY! CONGRATULATIONS! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!
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TellitTotheFrogs* · 1 decade ago
It's your life, stand up for him, and if she tells you to break up, tell her no. If you love this guy as much as it seems so, you let her know, ans I would trust if he were ever to turn out abusive you would stand up for yourself there too.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I wish I could tell her no. She is very strict, and she is one of those people you don't say no to. If he ever were to turn out abusive, he'd be gone in a heartbeat.
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TellitTotheFrogs* · 1 decade ago
If I were you, and I'm going to be completely honest with you, I would get you, your boyfriend and parents to sit down and talk about it.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I wish I could do that. I'd end up embarrassing the heck outta myself. She is afraid of what could happen in the future with us. :/
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TellitTotheFrogs* · 1 decade ago
I understand, and I really hope everything works out okay for you, I'm so sorry for the trouble you're in but I don't know what else to say. I'm sorry.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I hope things work out too.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Something else, I'm afraid she won't let me be with him. His opinion is that he's very against abuse, and he would never hurt someone. I love him with all of my heart, but I'm afraid she won't let me be with him, or see him in school, or ever let him come over again. She has told me she kind of wants me to start making other friends, and getting close to them. She did ask how did she think I could handle breaking up with him, and I told her I wouldn't be able to handle it. I'm afraid she's gonna try and get me to separate with him, which would tear me apart.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
The thing is that your parents are assuming that he is the abusive type. YOU have to let them see that he is not. WORDS are just words until theres some action going on. Someone might say, "I love you." yeah? anyone can say that. You have to show it. IF HE'S saying that he is not abusive then he has to tell your parents that. words are just words but actions have wayy more meaning.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
He has told my parents. Not directly "I'm not abusive" but they've had conversations and somehow he said "I'd never hit a girl, especially someone I love." They both are kind to him, but now my mom's starting to have doubts, since she's finding out more about his family.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
So why cant HIS family talk to your family about him
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
His family isn't exactly a normal family. My mom doesn't really approve of his mom, she's a deadbeat. She pretty much assumes he's like his family, since he's been raised in a "messed up environment"
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
But dont people who are born like that are usually really loving and caring....
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Yes, he is. my mom is afraid of what could happen in the future. She thinks he's gonna end up like them. :/
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
wait, why the f don't they trust you. I mean come on you told them his really loving and caring so they should believe you.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
What going on through my head when she doesn't trust me; dnf9q 3gw48dfgh67efg546gfg-fgY@#&*$Y3q.
Yeah. She is afraid of our future, such as the holidays. If we were to grow up together, and there was a time to visit his family during a holiday, it wouldn't be a good idea. You know, druggies, assultors, violence, not the best to be around.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
BUTS ITS YOUR LIFE! ITS YOUR FUTURE! TELL THEM THAT!
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
*Sings song by Bon jovi* IT'S MY LIFFFFFFEEE ITS NOW OR NEVER; I AINT GONNA LIVE FOREVER. I'M JUST GONNA LIVE WHILE I'M ALIVE. ITS. MY. LIFE." Lolol. I know, but apparently to them, my future will be bad. :/

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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
UGH!!!!! OMG! Dude you can't let your parents tell you what to do with your life!!!
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I know, well, when I'm 18, it will be my life.(; Things are so frustrating!
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
How old are you?
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I'm 14, I'll be 15 in August. I know, I'm young.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
WELL you could have told me that! That totally changes everything.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
It shouldn't really change that much, but I see what you're saying.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
well in my opinion I think that you're too young to even start thinking about your future with this guy.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
She let me keep him(: ♥ I know, I know, I'm too young. But I'm very attached to him, and in my situation, I was about to lose my closest friend who's done nothing wrong, that I've been with for 7 and a half months.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
Well.... it's your life. If you two love each other then you should be together. Even if your parents don't want you guys to be together because of something that is PROBABLY not going to happen in the future.Your parents can't see the future. they can't be saying that he is going to be abusive because NO ONE KNOWS THAT! Your parents can't decided you and your boyfriend's future. Its between you guys and no one else. It's YOUR relationship. If you THINK that your parents are right, then you should probably talk to your boyfriend.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Exactly, something COULD happen in the future, ANYTHING could happen though. Thank you so much. I'm just afraid I'm gonna break down if they bring it up again, if if they'll ever let him come over.
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AnaCastro196 · 1 decade ago
well if you really love him then then you shouldn't let anyone break you guys apart.
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
I really do love him, I just don't know what's going to happen. :/
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good_vibes · 1 decade ago
physical attractions are common, but a mental connection is rare, if you find it hold on to it. good vibes:)
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*Elena;~ ♥* · 1 decade ago
Thank you(:
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