Don't be so hard on yourself. Think of it this way:
ever wonder why it's so easy to offer advice but
when you're in a difficult situation, the answers
aren't as clear? That's because when someone
else comes to you with a problem, they are in a
maze and lost, while you have a bird's eye view
from above and can easily see where they need
to go to get out of the maze. However, when
you're in the maze, aka your problem, all you see
are barriers and need an outside perspective to
help you turn the right way. Keep in mind, they
can only tell you which way to go, but not force
your legs into walking that direction. Whether
to walk that way or not is entirely in your decision.