I was in a car accident once. I was cruising out everything was going well then... BAM!! I was blindsided, and the car was totaled. I never saw it coming. Another time I remember beginning to lose control the initial frantic attempt to keep the car on the road despite the ice. Time seemed to slow down as I watched the embankment coming ever closer. Powerless, I was completely powerless to stop it. Finally, I flew off the air went airborne for a few seconds before crashing down. That's just like relationships some end suddenly blindsiding you, and others you see the end coming but are powerless to stop it. I don't know which is worse...