IF 👏🏼 YOUR 👏🏼 SIGNIFICANT 👏🏼 OTHER 👏🏼 STRUGGLES 👏🏼 WITH 👏🏼 ANXIETY 👏🏼 AND 👏🏼 NEEDS 👏🏼 CONSTANT 👏🏼 REASSURANCE 👏🏼 DON'T 👏🏼 MAKE 👏🏼 THEM 👏🏼 FEEL 👏🏼 LIKE 👏🏼 A 👏🏼 BURDEN 👏🏼 JUST 👏🏼 GIVE 👏🏼 THEM 👏🏼 THAT 👏🏼 REASSURANCE 👏🏼
jake and I spent our 3 year anniversary hiking.he made me climb a mountain... I’m more of a flat stay on a trail kind of person. That really sums up our life together. I get in my comfort zone and get in the cycle of just doing things I want to do all the time. It’s nice to have a partner who makes you get uncomfortable, because it’s in those moments we grow. I don’t want to climb another mountain, but with her I know I will... and the view will be worth it every time. Here’s to 3 years of adventures babe, and to many more to come.
Can we be bestfriends in love,dear? Can we grow old together? I wanna be by your side for the years and years to come. Can we fall like feathers? Falling softly and slowly for one another? I wanna be here for you,through the good and the bad my love. 💘
The most dangerous time for an abused women is when she leaves. The abuser will try to make her sound to be the problem. He will try to turn people against her. He will make sure that he has a reason she has to communicate with him. He will try to manipulate get and everyone aroumd her that she knows and loves. When he realizes that the " I LOVE YOUS" and the " I AM SORRYS" aren't working it turns to violence. Then he's sorry again and loves you. The hardest part knowing this will happen and knowing YOU HAVE TO GO.... YOU DO NOT HAVE A CHOICE. Some people don't understand that. Knowing you WILL go through this without who was your best amd maybe only friend is a lot of the reason women don't leave. We are victimized by them everyday (in ways we never knew were possible) by both them amd the community. In a way.... It would have been earlier to stay. You know how you are going to be victimized. You can see it coming. When you leave and after you leave.... There is no end to the harassment they inflict on people. Please remember this when you find out someone was victimized. Definitely keep an open mind when you hear a story and put yourself in their shoes as much as possible.
SANDD* posted a quote
January 12, 2020 11:42am UTC
Sappy post warning 😊❤Ya know... our relationship is nobody’s definition of perfect. And it’s definitely not anyone else’s definition of a fairy tale. We didn’t start out on an easy path. I don’t even think either one of us thought this would be a long term thing, to be honest. Falling in love wasn’t the plan. Since we started our relationship, we’ve both made mistakes but we continue making them up for them everyday to one another.And I don’t mind that. I want to work at this. Always. because I love you,and i truly believe you are my soulmate.
SANDD* posted a quote
November 30, 2019 3:56pm UTC
How do you tell someone that their personality alone made him somehow magically become beautiful to you , but you don't wanna seem weird .. and the only reason you feel like it could be weird is because you never wanna make the first move unless signals are given and really , you haven't gotten any signals so your gut feelings telling you to leave it alone for the best , but the adventurous side of you that likes to fk stuff up is telling you to go for it ...? Am I making sense at all? Asking for a friend
SANDD* posted a quote
November 14, 2019 9:37am UTC
Unconditional love. Support. Stability. Affection. Understanding. Protection. Comfort. That was everything she gave you without asking you to reciprocate in the same way. You see, she thought that things like that should be as normal as breathing, that she wasn’t supposed to beg for love. But she had. She had to beg for your love and attention like it was something that is hard to give. Maybe it was hard for you since you never loved her the way she loved you. So, don’t try to win her back now when she is happy with someone else. Don’t you dare mess up her plans for real love. You know that she deserves a better man than you and that you can’t give her what she craved all the time. So, now that you lost her, let her be happy with someone who will love her the way she deserves to be loved. Let her be happy with a man who won’t make her question if she is good enough or worthy enough. Don’t you see that sparkle in her eyes when she looks at him? You know, she used to look at your eyes in the same way. And she would probably have continued doing that if you didn’t blow up every chance to be happy with her. So, don’t blame her for giving up on you because that doesn’t make her weak. That just means she was too strong for too long. That just means she was feeling with all her heart but it got broken in the end. And if you see her in the street with someone else, don’t ruin her day because only one look at you will make her feel sad. She will immediately remember all the things she had to put up with just to be with you. And her hopes to be happy in love will sink like an old boat. She will realize that she still loves you but that walking away was easier than staying with you and hurting. She knows that you were just one toxic man in her life who didn’t give her the love she deserved. Heck, you didn’t give her anything but tears and agony. That was all she knew about when she was with you. And she just wanted to love you. She wanted you to be the man with whom she will grow old, her soulmate, her human diary and her better half. She just wanted you to fight for her, but you couldn’t even do that. And being the only one trying for so long time just helped her to give up on you. Because she wanted you to choose her every day or leave. And we all know what you did. You gave up on her so easily; you didn’t even want to fight for her. You didn’t even want to do that to make her yours one more time. That was how little she meant to you. And she wanted you to show her that you love her in the simplest way that exists. She just wanted you to steal one kiss from her while nobody is watching. She wanted you to take her hand when she was afraid to do something she didn’t like. She wanted you to tell her that she was strong enough and that she can do anything she plans. But that was too much for her to ask, right? Because at every attempt of hers to kiss you, you would offer her your cheek instead of your lips. At every attempt of hers to take your hand because she was afraid, you would tell her that she should confront her fears, taking your hand away from her. With every hope that she will get the comforting words from you that she needed so much, you just told her that she shouldn’t even try to do something new because it will be a failure. That’s how much you believed in her, in the woman who would move mountains for you, for the one who always put you first trying to satisfy your needs instead of hers. She admired you for such a long time but now she admires another man. You disappointed her and she doesn’t think that you are as awesome as she thought before. Now, she just wants to be as far as she can from you. Because if you come close, she might not resist. She might give herself all in like she did before. And you know that you won’t be able to reciprocate any of it. You know that you will never give her the love she gave you and that you will never be crazily in love with her. So, this time, I am begging you to just give up on her. Let her be happy with someone who will know how to cherish her. Let her experience true love because thats what she deserves and nothing less than that..
"Every single relationship will get "boring" after you've been together for ages. Love isn't just a feeling, it's a conscious commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It's real hard, it's not always laughs and smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being cute. "Oh the spark is gone." No, that's not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you and love you unconditionally? Do the same. This isn't Hollywood, this isn't romantic happy ever after bs. Love someone when you don't want to. When they're being hard to love. That's the realist stuff there is."