It had been almost two years since I've been on here, the last time was when I posted when I wrote about my friend here in my bio. I figured I would come on here and update some of my things but my profile is who I was at the time, I'm not the person I was when I was always on here, I joined Witty when I was in 7th grade and I'm about to be a senior. So if there is anything I have I have learned these past 5 years is that...
Whatever you do in life... Never believe that you aren't good enough, because trust me you are great and you will go places in life. If you want to be something or do something in life that you've dreamt of being/doing, do NOT give up. Don't listen to everyone elses opinions on you. Don't listen to rumors about you. Be who you want to be. Be that person who people can turn to when they have nobody else. Be that person who helps people and helps the community. Don't sit around in life thinking that you have all of the time in the world to do something. Whatever it is, start now, don't sit around waiting for the "time to be perfect" because "perfect timing" doesn't exist. Don't let anyone bring you down, remember the good memories and try to forget the bad. The bad memories are the ones that will bring you down, focus on the good and life may be a little better, at least for a little while. Life's too short so speak now. There's no time for words to be left unsaid..
I used to post quotes that I saw anywhere onto here when I didn't know what to post. Usually whatever quote I was posting at that time, is how I felt about any specific subject that was going on in my life. Looking back through my page for the first time in almost two years amazes me. I'm amazed because two years ago I never thought that I would get to where I am now. I never thought that I would begin to accept my body and my flaws. Yes, there are still things that I hate about myself but I learned how to overcome most of them. I believe that to be happy, truly happy, you need to move on in life, learn from your past and as cliche as it sounds, except your flaws.
Never let somebody get inside your head and change YOUR way of thinking. Never let somebody else control YOUR happiness. Learn to depend on yourself, and not others. Because in the end? Others will just let you down.
She misses you but, the thing is, she doesn't know if you miss her too & honestly, she's afraid to find out because what if you don't? Then she'll look stupid for saying it to someone who doesn't feel the same way. So, she would fight the urge to text you, she would fight the urge to look at your pictures, she would fight the urge to visit your page, she would fight the urge to think about you but all of that is hard for her to do. Ignoring you is almost impossible for her but paying attention to you doesn't make her miss you any less either. All she can do now is wait for you to miss her enough to hit her up first.
So there's this guy I'm friends with on Facebook, and this what he posted.. Just thought some girls out there including me, need to know that not all guys are jerks. Dear girls, Right now, you may feel feel like you're the girl nobody wants. But, at least you're not the girl every one's already had. I know it sucks how you would see your other girls have guys all over them, & and how they have boyfriends to make them feel whole. & you tell yourself 'I wish I had that.' But let me tell you something, one day, there will be a guy who will come along & recognize how special you are. & you're gonna make him feel like the luckiest man in the world. Don't go looking for love, let love find you. Sincerely, a guy.
You noticed a change in him, didn't you? He doesn't text you as much as before. He doesn't randomly call you like he used to. When he actually does text & call, he doesn't seem too excited talking to you. He takes his time texting & calling you back now when he used to do it right away. When you guys have an argument, he doesn't seem like he cares much about it & he's more like "Whatever". When you guys hang out, he barely puts his arm around you or holds your hand When he kisses you, he doesn't put as much passion into it. When you guys go out on dates, he doesn't publicly display any affection towards you. When he tells you he misses you, it doesn't sound as sincere as it used to. When he tells you he loves you, it doesn't sound as sweet as it used to. It just feels different with him nowadays, doesn't it? It feels as if the guy who chased you until he got you, is no longer running after you & even if you got away, he wouldn't try to catch you again.
To her, you are everything. These other guys got nothing on you. Sure, they may be cute, they may be sweet, they're all special in their own way, but compared to you, they don't even come close. Even though you guys had a lot of rough times together, some of her best memories are with you. Although she hasn't spoken to you for awhile, she still keeps you in her thoughts. You probably think she's over you at this point but the truth is, she isn't. All this time and she still feels the same way towards you. Has she been with other guys since her relationship with you? Honestly, yes. But has she loved anyone else the same way or more than she loved you? Honestly, no. She can't tell you that though because things have changed too much and you guys have grown too far to be the way you once were together, but she does miss you here and there and she wishes nothing but the best for you.
If a girl feels like she isn't getting the kind of attention she wants from you, she'll try to find that attention from someone else. Sometimes, girls seek attention from another guy for comfort. Sometimes, girls seek attention from another guy to feel better about themselves. Sometimes, girls seek attention from another guy to get you jealous. Overall, though, they do that just so they can have your attention. Why? Because your attention on her is what reassures her that you're still into her, your attention on her is what has her convinced that she's still important to you, your attention on her is what makes her feel like she's the only girl in the world that matters to you. So yeah, maybe it is a little selfish of her to expect that from you, maybe it is a lot to ask for from you, but if she's worth it to you, then it wouldn't be so difficult to to pay her that kind of attention, now, would it?
Cheating should never be an option. If you are no longer happy with someone, just end the relationship. Why complicate things by cheating? Don't stay with that person and cheat on them and pretend like it's a relationship you still want to be a part of. Don't put up a front showing that you still care about that person while showing someone else that same type of affection. Don't stick around and have that person believe you're in it for the longrun when you honestly don't see a future with this person because you're too busy having fun with someone new right now. Don't even say "I accidentally cheated, I wasn't thinking" because the truth is, cheating isn't an accident, it's a choice and it's a choice you have to think about in order to make. So if you feel like the relationship isn't something you want anymore, just leave. It may hurt that person, but it won't hurt as much as being cheated on.
"K" is not the response she wants when she's texting you. "I don't know, whatever you want" is not the suggestion she wants to hear when she's asking what you feel like doing. "You're probably with your other boyfriend" is not what she wants to hear when she's just hanging out with her friends. "I don't feel like talking" is not what she wants you to say when she's trying to work things out with you. "I'm sorry" is not what she wants you to tell her when you keep making the same mistake she forgave you for over and over again. "I won't do it again" is not the promise she wants you to make when you've broken that promise to her so many times. "She's just a friend" is not what she wants you to try to explain when you guys talk more than regular friends should. "I love you" is not what she wants to believe when you tell her you love her but treat her like complete crap.
Oh, so you caught him talking to another girl? Why stress it? You can talk to other guys too, and once you do, watch him get jealous, and watch him get mad, and act like it's not okay for you to talk to other guys, and try to make you feel bad and guilt trip you like you did something wrong. Then that's when you bring up the other girl he's talking to and he's gonna be saying something like "she's just a friend".. Then you could say the same thing about you and your guy friend and hopefully he'll realize something.
Oh, he left you for another girl? Don't worry, cause one day, he'll text you, he'll ask you how you've been, he'll bring up old memories to make you gain back old feelings, & he'll ask to see you again. You're gonna be happy hearing from him, you're gonna remember how much you liked him, but at the same time, you're gonna remember how much you hate him now, & you're gonna remember how much he hurt you. So you're not gonna answer his text back, cause you know you shouldn't, and you know you need to move on with your life.
Dear Guys, So what if she don't got boobs? So what if she don't got a butt? So what if she don't got a pretty face? So what if she has one of them, maybe two, but not all three? So what if there's other girls out there that do have all three of those? Does that make her any better than the girl that lacks it? It isn't her fault she doesn't have certain features that would be deemed, "beautiful." Yeah, you don't look at a girl at first & say, "Wow, she has an awesome personality," but you shouldn't look at a girl & say, "Eww, she got a flat chest & flat butt & ugly face, that automatically means you're not my type." Take a chance, get to know someone, & they can turn out to be something beautiful
Let me guess. There is a guy you like. You went on his Facebook page. You see mostly girls talking to him, telling him how cute he is. You see girls write on his wall, you read your conversation & it bothers you how they have their own insiders. You read what some of these girls & him are talking about & you can sense flirting. You go on their pages & you hate how some of them actually do look decent, you even think some look better than you. You also go on his page & see nothing about you & him, which pains you the most.
A bit of advice for girls... Maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe its you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in your future. Maybe the happy ending is just moving on.