10 ways to get a guy to ask you out ;)
1. be yourself...
No one likes deception. Think about it. If a guy was extremely gentlemanly on the first couple of dates (opened doors for you, pulled the chair out et all) and all of that magically disappeared when the two of you got a little more serious, you would feel cheated right? So don’t do the same thing. Yes, we all tweak our normal selves to impress the other person but there is a fine line between tweaking and being downright fake. So listen to him when he talks about his favorite sport but don’t pretend to be a born fan if you’re not just to get him to like you.
2. Extend that to eternal appearances too...
Don’t dress a certain way because you think that’s what he would like. When I was 15, I had the biggest crush on this guy and I knew for a fact that his ex always had her face plastered with makeup. If he liked her that way, surely he would like me with a little blue eyeshadow? I never found out because the one and only time I experimented with it, my best friend (thankfully) caught me before anyone else could see me and made me swear I would NEVER do that to my face again. I can’t imagine what would have happened otherwise. Moral of the story: If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up, stay clear of them. Your own look may not be that of a fashion model, but it’s whats best for you!
3. Accentuate your physical attributes...
Fashion trends are going to be the death of us one day. Don’t follow them just because. All you’re going to do is end up killing your confidence because boyfriend blazers look hideous on you thanks to your broad shoulders or something like that Instead, figure out what suits your body and accentuate your best features. Draw attention to your killer legs, wear colors that bring out your gorgeous eyes, wear a belt to emphasize the curves of your waist… Just remember that learning what looks good on you is a process. You may goof up every now and then but that’s okay. Just be comfortably fabulous and unique and enjoy the process!
4. Take the initiative...
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So if you like a guy and you want attention from him, stop waiting and praying and take that first step…no matter how scary! The next time you see him walk by, flash a lovely smile and say hi. You can’t possibly go wrong with that! Confidence is enamoring. So I don’t care how shy you are. Fake the confidence if you must and watch how he reacts.
5. Actions speak louder than words...
You took the initiative and it worked! You and your boy crush are now talking to each other. This is when you plant the seed. Glance at him often and if he catches you looking, smile. When the two of you are talking, look right into his eyes, listen to what he says and laugh at his jokes. Twirl your hair. And please make it look subconscious and playful. Brush your shoulder or arm against his every now and then. Actions do speak louder than words. And all this will make him realize that you are interested in him.
6. Find out what he likes...
Find out what his likes and dislikes are and try to steer the conversation in that direction. And like I said earlier, don’t pretend to be a fan of something just because you think it’ll make him like you better. At the same time, don’t shoot down his interests by saying something like “I HATE sports.” Seem genuinely interested and listen to what he has to say. And if you really hate something he likes, try to playfully argue with him. That will bring you closer. Remember the keyword: playfully!
7. Position yourself cleverly...
If the two of you are about to spend a decent amount of time together, just remember to keep changing your position often enough without seeming too fidgety. Face to face interaction usually means maximum eye contact and that will help you connect better. But sticking to his side, especially in a crowded room would mean being able to be closer to him physically. Remember to lean into him and talk softly. It’s all about clever and timely positioning. And like I said, don’t do it too often or you might get asked “Do you wanna use the restroom?” like I did!
8. Have fun by yourself too...
If you are with another group of friends, concentrate on them instead of having one eye on him constantly. Don’t spend your entire time watching his every move like a hawk or you’re going to seriously spook him out. Instead, enjoy yourself with your friends. Get them laughing or talking animatedly to you. This will make him wish he was with your crowd, especially with you. And if he happens to walk by, a warm smile and a hi would be perfect.
9. Let him know you are available...
So you’ve done everything to let him know that you are interested. Now also find a way to let him know that you are single and very much available. Try and weave it into general banter. That’s what I do. Also, this would be the perfect way to find out whether he’s single or no.
10. Discuss the right topics...
You’ve done everything you’ve had to do. The flirting is on in full swing. Now all he has to do is ask you out. Some guys are smarter and will usually ask you out by this point. Others need a few more hints. So what I do is discuss stuff like upcoming concerts, new movies and restaurants that I can’t wait to check out. Sound excited without sounding too desperate and you never know, an invitation may just be a breath away...
-love ya
Paloma ( HB )
P.S results may vary...
Honeybunn